There’s an old saying that if the devil isn’t chasing you, he must be walking beside you. That’s for damn sure… I don’t know if anyone feels this way, but when I try to do right something ALWAYS gets in the way! It’s like Satan says, “No bitch, remember who you used to be. You can’t change.” The closer I get to God and try to be righteous, the more obstacles I have to face. Can I win?? I guess I’m writing this for all of you who feel like me. The devil doesn’t want you to change into a better person. He wants to remind you of who you used to be, which is why he’ll put you in situations that could bring you back to an old, familiar place.

I also notice that when I’m doing wrong, things seem to go my way… That’s how the devil works. He gives you what you want for doing his dirty work. You’re out here sinning and living the good life because of it. But guess what? As soon as you stop working for him, he’ll turn on you. The minute you want to live right, Satan will do everything in his power to bring you back down. It’s a struggle everyday to not let him win. Some days I really want to turn back around and revert to my old ways, but I’m keeping my head up. I’m here to tell you don’t pay your old demons any attention. Just keep your head held high and stay on your current path. Evil will chase you, tempt you, and distract you but God has a bigger plan in mind. Trust me, the path to enlightenment is neither easy nor fun, but it will lead you to something amazing if you just have faith.

Be blessed everyone! :-)

I’ve heard several men talk about how their girlfriends don’t do this or that for them and they get frustrated. They all justify their frustration with this tired old argument “how am I supposed to make her my wife if she doesn’t act like it?” Well, my brother, I hate to break it to you, but until you place a ring on her finger she’s not required to do anything for you. Ladies, just because he takes you on some dates and cuddles while you’re on your period does not make him your priority.

What if women flipped the script, “How am I supposed to act like a wife if he doesn’t act like a husband?” Here’s what husbands do: they lead you spiritually, pay bills, fix things around the house, make sure you are protected and provided for, help take care of kids, etc. Is he doing all of these things? EXACTLY. No self-respected man will do all of these things for a woman he is just dating, so why do men expect so much from us?

I know I sound like a bitter Betty, but I’m not (I promise!). I’m not saying be lazy and unwilling to do things until he proposes… I’m saying don’t dedicate your life to your man. Women have a tendency to do entirely too much when we’re in love. Sometimes, this scares men away or they get too comfortable and don’t see a need to advance the relationship. It’s possible to be a great girlfriend without “playing house.” For example, a great girlfriend cooks for herself and offers her man some of it. A pretend wife cooks for him every day of the week. A great girlfriend keeps her place clean while her man is there; a pretend wife cleans her man’s place for him. A great girlfriend makes time for her man when her schedule allows; a pretend wife cancels her plans to be with him. See the difference? There’s nothing wrong with being slightly selfish while dating. You have plenty of time to make sacrifices while you’re married.

I used to be a pretend wife. I just knew that I was going to marry this guy, but he didn’t realize it yet lol. So I acted like a wife to him. I cooked, cleaned his apartment, washed his dirty underwear, had sex (even when I didn’t want to), took care of him when he was sick, bought groceries, etc. I felt like dating was an audition for the big role—marriage—and the more I did, the more he would discover that I was “the one.” I’m glad I didn’t actually marry this guy because I was too exhausted from the relationship to be a decent wife! To make things worse, my efforts were usually taken for granted and I STILL didn’t get a ring… That’s pathetic!