It’s Friday night and you’re stuck at the house watching another bootleg movie on Netflix. You look at your phone… no new notifications. So you say to yourself, “I’m so bored. I wonder what (insert man’s name here) is doing.” You text Rodney, the fool who lied about having a girlfriend; or Jeremy, the boy who only texts you at 2 am to “kick it,” or your ex who will never act right for longer than a week. After you text so and so out of boredom, he comes over and you hang out. It feels so good to finally have some company! Someone to laugh with, talk about random things with, and maybe even cuddle with. You’re so excited that he’s over there, and it’s been a while, so of course you get the D! The next morning (or shortly afterwards), he’s gone. Now what?
Use your alone time to focus on yourself. You don’t have to be “boo’d up” all the time.
If you’re one of those rare women who can have sex without getting attached, that's awesome I guess... Just be safe… For the rest of us, sex = crazy, irrational feelings. So for the next few days you get mad at Rodney because he didn’t text you again like he promised. You stay up late waiting for Jeremy to call you again, but he doesn’t, or you’re stressing out because your ex said he still loves you but he’s too “busy” to hang out again. Yeah, you had a great Friday night, but you spend the rest of the week upset about someone who only wanted to smash. This has happened to the best of us. I would be bored out of my mind, and call an available guy to kick it with (usually an ex so my body count wouldn’t go up. SMH), and for the next week or so I would be going crazy trying to figure out why he hasn’t talked to me since our “amazing” night. I quickly found out that it’s not worth it. I don’t know about you, but I would much rather be “bored” every night of the week than deal with emotions and bullshit. I told that to one of my friends recently. She basically said she’s bored, so she would rather go back to her no good ex than be alone. No ma’am! Sure, you’ll have a date on Friday (if you call Netflix and chill a date), but you’ll have a headache the other six days! Use your alone time to focus on yourself. You don’t have to be “boo’d up” all the time. Next time you get bored, don’t call that guy. Go to the gym, check up on a friend or family member, cook a meal, pray… I don’t care! Just do something YOU want to do that doesn’t involve the headaches/heartaches of a man...
Whitney is currently an exhausted teacher, a loving daughter, an annoying little sister, and a devoted wife. :-)