How to be Friends with an Introvert
I am the definition of an introvert.
I like spending time alone, I'm not a fan of talking on the phone, and one of the best feelings in the world is when plans get canceled. Because of this, it's hard for me to make friends and even harder to keep them. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a bad friend; it just takes a special kind of person to understand me. I'm sure I'm not the only introvert on the planet, so here are a few tips that people can follow if they have an introverted friend like me.
1. Don't be easily offended.
Us introverts are not the friends that you can call at the last minute for a night out. We need time to prepare our minds for a night of constant socializing. So please don't be offended if we decline your impromptu social invitations. We're not being rude, we just know that going out when we don't feel like it will result in both of us having a bad time. On the other hand, we are always available for a night in! (We'll even bring the wine).
2. We don't like to bother you.
We probably don't call people very often because we don't want to be bothersome. Of course we'll call to check on you after a tragic event or if we have some news to share, but calling just to talk can get awkward. Introverts overthink everything... what if they're busy? She's working and in school, she won't have time to talk... I don't really have much to say so I won't waste their time. To avoid the awkwardness, we tend to keep phone calls to a minimum. Feel free to text at all times and call whenever you need to. We will always make time for a vent session!
3. Less communication doesn't mean you're cut off.
This is where I struggle in my friendships. As we get older, we become busier. Most adults have to juggle school, work, relationships, kids, exercising, and the list goes on. Sometimes, I get so caught up in my own life and months pass before I realize I haven't heard from my friends. It's nothing personal, trust me!
From my experience, introverts make great friends. We just don't enjoy socializing that much, which is unfortunately the root of most friendships. Other than that, we are loyal, great listeners, and fun when we're around those we love. Don't count out your introverted friends... we love you, we just won't call you to tell you that.
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Whitney is currently an exhausted teacher, a loving daughter, an annoying little sister, and a devoted wife. :-)