This picture has been floating around the internet recently and everybody has expressed their opinions about it, so let me put my two cents in... I really don't know how to feel about it. On one hand, I'm like "you go girl!" because that takes guts. Asking a man any question that has to do with commitment takes a lot of balls. On the other hand, what satisfaction does a woman get from proposing to a man? A woman who does this is basically saying, "I don't think you'll ever step up and do this, so I have to do it myself." And a man who accepts this proposal is saying, "you're right. I didn't plan on asking you." Best case scenario, he's thinking "I was going to ask you in due time, but now I don't have to." Either way, it sets a horrible precedent for your future relationship. How can you expect a man to step up to the plate if you won't let him?
The feminists are going to hate me for this statement, but here goes... I hate to break it to you ladies, but the man has the upper hand in the relationship. It took me a long time to accept this reality, but he does. HE decides to pursue you. HE decides whether he wants to commit to you. HE decides when he wants to marry you. Of course, we have power too. We have certain qualities that make a man want to do these things. We encourage him to step up and be a man when he needs to, we bring out the best qualities in our men, and we have the power of the... you know lol. With that being said, proposing to a man won't change anything. Yeah, you decided you loved him so much that you wanted the world to know that he was claimed. But guess what? You'll still get married when HE's ready. You picked out a dress and told your family and friends about it, but that dress will sit in the closet for years if he's not ready to commit to you. Also, if you love this man enough to spend the rest of your life with him, why not wait for him? He's worth it, right?
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