The Two Year Itch
Let me start this post with a disclaimer: I LOVE MY HUSBAND! He is a wonderful man and I wouldn't trade him for anyone in the world. Honestly, this post doesn't have anything to do with him... it's all about me.
Some of you may have heard of something called the "Seven Year Itch." Its an old psychological term that suggests that happiness in a marriage starts to decline around year seven. That makes sense though. After seven years, you know everything about your partner. Soon, the only thing you notice is how much they annoy the hell out of you.
Unfortunately, my "itch" comes a little sooner than seven years though. I have been in three long term relationships (not including my husband) and they all ended around the second year. I don't know what it is... it's like all of those intense romantic feelings I once had came crashing to the ground shortly after our two year anniversaries. That's when I started seeing everything wrong with the situation. It seemed like my heart eyes turned into side eyes... and those feelings came out of the blue! Before I became more resentful in the relationship, I would do or say something to end it. So I have never actually gotten beyond this stage.
My husband and I just had our two year anniversary last month, so you know what that means... THE ITCH! The heart eyes are gone and my side eye is in full effect. It feels so weird! I try not to complain because I love my husband so much (see disclaimer) but EVERYTHING gets on my nerves! The things that I used to ignore or make excuses for drive me crazy. Here are some examples:
That's not even all of it lol. The old me would just find a way to sabotage the relationship before it gets worse, but I'm married. I can't just run away whenever I feel like it. Plus, he's not the problem. I am. Nothing about him has changed but my mindset has. I don't know how to transition from the infatuation phase to the comfort of companionship because I have never made it this far. So whenever he gets on my nerves, I take a deep breath and try to remember why I love his imperfections. For all my married/long term relationship ladies... do you go through this or am I the only one?
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Whitney is currently an exhausted teacher, a loving daughter, an annoying little sister, and a devoted wife. :-)