Have you ever met a woman who demands attention everywhere she goes? She may not be the prettiest, but men stop and stare at her anyway. She may not say much, but when she does people listen. She walks with purpose and you can tell just by looking at her that this woman has her life together (or so it seems). This woman is a queen. No one can pinpoint why people are drawn to her; maybe it’s her personality, or her smile… whatever it is, she is special. Every woman has the potential be like her—like a queen. Here are 5 traits that make a woman a queen:
1. A queen is confident.
She doesn’t have to be the most beautiful girl in the world, but she knows her worth. Whether she is in sweats or an evening gown, you can tell that she is self-assured. She walks with purpose and her head held high. She doesn’t care what other people say about her and continues to do her own thing despite adversity. She doesn’t feel the need to post half-naked selfies on Instagram to boost her self-esteem. She knows that whether she gets 10 likes or 1000, she’s beautiful.
2. A queen is independent.
Being an independent woman seems to have a negative undertone among men. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having your own. In fact, it’s a great feeling to be able to pay your bills on time, take care of your kids, and still have something left over to treat yourself. However, there is something wrong with rubbing it in people’s faces. If you’re constantly on Facebook bragging about your Michael Kors bags and your new Louboutin’s, that’s not being a queen—that’s being a spoiled little girl. If you’re always telling men to “get your bread up,” or “get on my level” you’re sending the wrong message, and honestly, it’s annoying as hell. A person who has to brag about their “stuff” clearly isn’t used to having nice things. A queen gets what she wants and lets it speak for itself. It’s obvious that she works hard for what she has, and doesn’t rely on others unless it is absolutely necessary. She doesn’t take handouts easily because she realizes how much more rewarding it is to earn her own money. Any man in her presence knows that she isn’t looking for a sponsor, but an equal partner who is willing to help her build an empire.
3. A queen is classy.
She is aware that people are constantly watching her. Her children look up to her, her family members follow her on social media, her bosses may Google her, so she’s mindful of how she presents herself. You’ll never see her sloppy drunk in public, she doesn’t post all of the details of her life on the Internet, and she is rational enough to handle public conflicts in a way that doesn’t end up on Worldstar. I’m not saying that she doesn’t go out and have fun, she is just aware of her surroundings. You never know who may be watching…
4. A queen is intelligent.
She doesn’t need to be a Harvard grad or a straight A student. Actually, she doesn’t even need to have a degree. By intelligent, I mean she has common sense. She can carry on a logical conversation without looking stupid, and if she doesn’t know something, she’s not afraid to ask. Intelligent also means that she is very knowledgeable about something. Maybe she's an expert on cooking or makeup techniques and can share that knowledge with others.
5. A queen is positive.
She never puts another woman down. Why would she? She doesn’t gain anything from being rude to others. She is focused on being her best self and has no time to gossip or spread negativity. Her good vibes are contagious and you just feel better when you’re around her. She never lets her bad moods infect others and she manages to smile even when she doesn’t want to.
I think these 5 traits make queens stand out from regular women. A regular woman may get overlooked, but you can’t ignore a queen’s presence. She’s royalty, you know…
Whitney is currently an exhausted teacher, a loving daughter, an annoying little sister, and a devoted wife. :-)